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Day 05 of 30 day challenge

day 05- A thank you letter to someone who has changed your life

You were not planned and not expected.
You were gone as soon as we knew you were there.
Maybe you knew without knowing that our life was not quite ready for you yet.
I think of you more often than I ever thought I would. I wonder what life would have been if you had become a part of our lives.
I would never have been able to decide to wait. You must’ve known it wasn’t the right time. So you made the choice we never could have. You left us with nothing but a memory, and none of us will ever know what might have been.

They said you were never more than a few cells. You never even had a heartbeat.

But I still think about you. I think of your hair, your chubby hands. Trucks and mud. Barbies and lipstick. All the toys and diapers.

And I think of the gift you gave us, in giving us a few more years.

I wonder if there’s a shadow of you in what would have been your little sister. I wonder if you’d have had the curls she does. If you’d have still been in our bed when she came along.

Thank you for the minute we had with you. Thank you for the perspective you gave me on what life is.

I don’t know if I believe in an afterlife, but if there is one, you are well met. You have great grandparents who are no doubt loving every minute I’ve missed.

And if there is something after this, I can’t wait to hold you.

Thank you. I love you still.



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I'm a wife, a mother, and many other things. I have blogged my life for over six years now, and this blog is the culmination of several blogs. In other words, I'm trying to get it all together. Bear with me.


7 thoughts on “Day 05 of 30 day challenge

  1. This brought tears and memories of children of mine departed before I had a chance to know them.

    Posted by Susan | June 13, 2011, 4:27 pm
  2. You just put into words what I have not been able to in 5 years. How beautiful, and how I understand every single syllable. Thank you for helping give me more than just a knot in my stomach when I look at my sweet nephew and think how he would have had a cousin 2 weeks older… precious “memories” of someone I never had a chance to meet. Thanks, Em. I never knew we had so much in common.

    Posted by Cindy | June 13, 2011, 7:19 pm
  3. Wow. Tears. Love you.

    Posted by Amanda | June 13, 2011, 7:41 pm
  4. It always surprises me how many people experience these losses. Because no one really talks about it.

    Posted by emylibef | June 13, 2011, 8:27 pm
  5. And I you.

    Posted by emylibef | June 13, 2011, 8:27 pm
  6. That was beautiful. I have had those same thoughts many, many times.

    Posted by Megs | June 13, 2011, 9:08 pm

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